Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles

Singletude is a positive, supportive singles blog about life choices for the new single majority. It's about dating and relationships, yes, but it's also about the other 90% of your life--family, friends, career, hobbies--and flying solo and sane in this crazy, coupled world. Singletude isn't about denying loneliness. It's about realizing that whether you're single by choice or by circumstance, this single life is your life to live.

Thursday, January 17, 2008

Ten Reasons to Be Happy You're Single

1. Sure, you have to clean up after yourself, but you don't have to clean up after anyone else. Unless you're a single parent, in which case you have to clean up after the kids, but at least you don't have to clean up after their mother or father, too.

2. If you don't clean up after yourself, there's no one to nag you about it.

3. You don't have to okay your plans with anyone. Wanna waste ten bucks on a James McAvoy tearjerker so you can ogle Jamey boy shirtless? Go for it. Rather stay home with a beer and chips and watch the Patriots game? That's your call, too. And no one's going to make you feel like a loser for it.

4. Flirting with that gorgeous blonde at the bar isn't cheating.

5. You can climb the career ladder faster when there's no one asking you to slow down and spend more time at home. Don't want to run in the rat race? Fine. There's no one expecting you to keep your shared bank account filled to the brim.

6. If you want a change of scene, pick up and move across the state border. Not far enough? How 'bout cross-country? Or the other side of the Atlantic? As a single, you have that option. It's a lot harder to do with a family in tow. Conversely, you'll never have to pick up and leave a life you love for someone else's career opportunities.

7. No in-laws. Not even friends you have to make nicey-nicey with.

8. No drama. No emotions spiraling out of control every time he or she forgets your birthday or goes out to lunch with an ex or criticizes your taste in music. Your life is calm, and your moods are even.

9. More time for your friends and family. No arguments about where to spend Christmas this year, no guilt trips about girls' or guys' night out.

10. The possibilities. Once you have a family, everything you do, every decision you make, revolves around them. Your life is not your own. When you're single, the possibilities are endless. You can take up snorkeling off the coast of Vanua Levu, open your own singing telegram business, write a book about writing books. You're free to pursue any path your heart desires, and what's more, you don't yet know where that path will lead, so you can look forward to the adventure of finding out.


What reasons do you have to be happy you're single?


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3 comments:

Victoria Gothic said...

You ask, I tell. Reasons I’m happy I’m single:
1. I don’t have to keep up to date one another human being all day and night just to claim that we have a “relationship.”
2. I can do pretty much anything I want with whom ever I want (unless they’re in a relationship, which puts a damper on things.)
3. I can go places with my friends and not worry about leaving the “partner” out of the loop and feeling excluded.
4. I have more time to myself, and since I am a selfish person with my time, that’s a good thing.
5. I have time to write. (Which is different than time for myself. Writing time is time for you, the readers. Though relationships do create the emotions that great poems are made of…)
6. I have no obligations to someone all the time. (Different than going somewhere with friends, which happens sparingly.)

And my final reason, which a few of my friends would argue, I know; 7. I can be lonely and melancholy and brood in my despair until a really great poem or other inspiration comes to me. (If you’re in a relationship, that doesn’t work. They’ll constantly be asking you, “what’s wrong?” And then you loose track of the brooding sorrow, and it does make some good stuff.

So, well, compared to Elsie, my reasons are pretty superficial, but I’m happy about it. Bobbyboy, you’ve got a skill which I decidedly do not possess. My entire comment could be summed up in your single sentence; “I have used the word ‘click’ many times to people to explain that there has to be more meat to the relationship than just looks or being horny.” If only, if only I could learn to sum things up instead of burning so many words…

I really must say, everyone needs to listen to “Message in a Bottle” by The Police. Really, I’m not kidding. I love that song almost as much as I love Thor.

Victoria Gothic

bobbyboy said...

Hi Elsie, I guess all in all it has to be the freedom to choice. In one of my other blog posts I mentioned "Being honest with ourselves." as the first of three points in order to lay a sound foundation to having a good relationship.

Well, I think this point works really well with someone who enjoys being single as well. Single may not always be a choice for some, but it's not a disease either. There are many who are perfectly content with the freedom of being single.

Victoria Gothic, First, I would like to say hello to you.
Secondly after reading this part of your words:

"And my final reason, which a few of my friends would argue, I know; 7. I can be lonely and melancholy and brood in my despair until a really great poem or other inspiration comes to me. (If you’re in a relationship, that doesn’t work. They’ll constantly be asking you, “what’s wrong?” And then you loose track of the brooding sorrow, and it does make some good stuff."

One of the more solid and honest points made and I applaud you for it!

I'm not sure that it's a skill Victoria Gothic, or more of a lacking skill that keeps my words short. I can say this though, I envy the ability of someone who can write well though out and expressive posts like yourself and Elsie. It's a gift...so keep on burning them out!

Clever Elsie said...

Great additions to the list, guys!

Anyone else wanna chime in with a few?