Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles

Singletude is a positive, supportive singles blog about life choices for the new single majority. It's about dating and relationships, yes, but it's also about the other 90% of your life--family, friends, career, hobbies--and flying solo and sane in this crazy, coupled world. Singletude isn't about denying loneliness. It's about realizing that whether you're single by choice or by circumstance, this single life is your life to live.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Poll Results: Are You Single by Choice or by Circumstance?

Thanks to all those who participated in the second Singletude poll! Response more than doubled since the last poll, and with 50 of you chiming in, we now have what would be considered in the research community a small but decent sample group. :) Of course, this was hardly a scientific study. Nevertheless, the results give us a peek into the minds of singles who would seek out a blog that's supportive of the single life and hints at how the attraction of the single state stacks up against the allure of relationships.

Poll: "Are you single by choice or by circumstance?"

I am single by choice. I would rather be single than in a relationship even if I could find a suitable partner.
16% (8)

I am single by circumstance. If I could find a suitable partner, I would rather be in a relationship than single.
50% (25)

I have no preference. I equally enjoy being single and being in a relationship.
20% (10)

I prefer not to define myself by any of the above.
14% (7)

At the end of the day, it seems that the overwhelming majority of singles (50%) would prefer to come home to significant others as long as those "others" are right for them. At least, that's what it looks like at first glance. However, if you combine the singles by choice with those who are equally happy single or coupled, you get a substantial minority (36%) who are just fine without a partner keeping the home lights burning, thank you very much. Not to be misleading, though, you could just as easily interpret this statistic from the opposing viewpoint and argue that 86% of singles surveyed enjoy relationships, while only 16% voice a strong preference for a spouse-free life. The remaining 14% fall into an undefinable category, and I'd be interested in hearing whether they just don't care for the terms "choice" and "circumstance" or have more complex definitions than this basic poll could capture.

Thanks again to everyone who voted, and I hope the results proved educational in a totally unscientific, non-academic way. ;)

Do you have a question for Clever Elsie about some aspect of the single life? Have a rant or rave about singlehood? Write in, and you just might see your question in a Singletude Q&A or your rant or rave in a Singletude Sound-off!


The Singlutionary said...

I had a hard time clicking a box on this poll. I am happy single but I am open to at some point in time, being coupled. But my experience is not that I am equally happy coupled as I am single. I have been far happier single. Being coupled has always been an experience of angst and confusion and frustration for me. So I guess I'm one of the "not sure how to answer"/option #4 folks!

But this was very informative.

Clever Elsie said...

Singlutionary: That makes a lot of sense, and I understand your perspective because I'm really in the same boat. I'm a happier person when I'm single, but I wouldn't want to rule out being in a relationship again because I don't want to rule out anything in my future since I don't know what it holds. Right now, I would say that I'm single by choice, but it's definitely a term that applies to the here and now. Maybe I'll continue to prefer the single life, and maybe I won't. Only time will tell.

BTW, I had a hard time writing the poll options, too! It's hard to capture nuances of thought in answers that are designed to force people to make an either/or choice. That's one reason why I have a hard time buying into poll or survey results that are presented like the gold standard of truth. How well can they measure what they purport to measure if participants are really just selecting answers that are close but no cigar?