Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles

Singletude is a positive, supportive singles blog about life choices for the new single majority. It's about dating and relationships, yes, but it's also about the other 90% of your life--family, friends, career, hobbies--and flying solo and sane in this crazy, coupled world. Singletude isn't about denying loneliness. It's about realizing that whether you're single by choice or by circumstance, this single life is your life to live.

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Single on Valentine's Day = A Whole Lotta Love to Give

I tried to ignore it. But the more you ignore that two-ton elephant in the corner, the more it stomps around and trumpets sappy Sinatra songs and blows heart-shaped bubbles.

Tomorrow is Valentine's Day. If you're single, it's a national holiday to celebrate something you don't have.

Or is it?

Valentine's Day is supposed to be about love. Last I checked, love was not a pair of De Beers blood diamonds, "fresh tropical flowers" from a hothouse in Connecticut, or chocolate lollipop bears too cute to eat without feeling like you're decapitating an endangered species. And it certainly wasn't restricted to couples.

This V-Day, take a minute to call to mind all the other kinds of love you have in your life--the love of parents, children, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews, friends, pets. That's a whole lot of love. In fact, if you have that much love, you have way more to celebrate than those poor lovestruck couples who only have each other. And how about that wealth of love you have stored up inside? Why not celebrate that by giving it away to other people?

Dedicate this Valentine's to giving love instead of passively receiving it. Call your family and friends tomorrow and remind them that you love them. Take the time to buy or make a card for everyone you're close to and write a personalized message about how they're special to you. Hand deliver the cards or tuck them into mailboxes. For family and friends who are far away, ecards are a good substitute as long as you add a message in your own words. If there are kids in your family, take them out for ice cream or to the movies.


Let V stand for volunteer. There are so many people who could use some love this Valentine's Day. Visit a nursing home and play checkers with the seniors. Help a child learn to read. Deliver a meal to a hungry family. Feed the animals at your local shelter. There are as many ways to get involved as there are people with needs. Follow these links to web sites that can hook you up with nonprofits who need help:
American Red Cross
Big Brothers Big Sisters
Network For Good
United Way
Volunteer Solutions
Volunteers of America

Helping others will take your focus off yourself this Valentine's Day and remind you that there are people with much bigger problems than who to take to the movies. When you're picking up trash off the street or handing out blankets to homeless folks, I can guarantee you won't hear any platitudes about love...but you'll be showing some.

What do you plan to do for Valentine's Day?

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bobbyboy said...

Outstanding blog Elsie! I was going to write something very similar, but then life got in the way.

Really, the only other thing I have to say to this is YES YES YES!!

Clever Elsie said...

Gee, thanks. :) And I hope you had a great Valentine's/Quirkyalone Day.

Miz Motormouth said...

I couldn't agree more! Just because a single person isn't in a romatic relationship doesn't mean they aren't loved. We musn't forget our wonderful, family, friends and community. Great post, Elsie!

Clever Elsie said...

Thanks, Miz! Glad you enjoyed. :)

s.t said...

Seriously, its not easy to push out the thoughts that you are alone on valentines day.

Even the ugliest, nastiest person has flowers being sent to him/her, it literally made u roll ur eyes. I cldnt help but ponder - are the men all blind?

Do i sound bitter? maybe slightly. lolz. i spent e night wif my parents and our pet. Nt dat bad, too.

Clever Elsie said...

S.T.:Color me ignorant, but I never knew you guys celebrated V-Day in Singapore! Always thought it was a Western thing and that I could escape it if necessary by spending the day abroad. But I guess there’s NO ESCAPE! LOL.

You’re not alone. I did so little on Valentine’s that I can’t even remember what I did. Probably worked on Singletude, lol!

Even the ugliest, nastiest person has flowers being sent to him/her, it literally made u roll ur eyes.

It never ceases to amaze me what vile people can get others to put up with them!

s.t said...

lolz... singapore is so so westernised. even halloween, ppl dressed up to parties..

Kids as young as 3-4yrs old speak affluent english and mandarin (e mother tongue) lolz. u cant escape much even if u come here. =D

I guess, on V-Day its very much depend on hw u wan to react to it. If its wkday, its juz every other working day. Meals and flowers r so expensive on tis day, it prob makes u feel beta dat u stay at home cuz u r saved fm all these pricy expenses. =D

Clever Elsie said...

Halloween??!! Yikes! I thought the American version of that one hadn't even made it back to Europe yet, much less Asia!

S.T., I hereby apologize to you, on behalf of the American people, for visiting our atrociously garish, commercial, consumerist holidays on Singapore. I'm embarrassed for the U.S.