tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post8706991951074554672..comments2024-02-20T03:51:07.321-05:00Comments on Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles: Advice Q&A: How to Answer "Why Don't You Have Children?"Clever Elsiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16418117983991542947noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-61011241558414939662009-09-16T02:57:56.348-04:002009-09-16T02:57:56.348-04:00Jenn: I'm surprised over and over by what peop...<b>Jenn</b>: I'm surprised over and over by what people really don't grasp as personal. This story has nothing to do with singleness, but I consider it a good one: Once upon a time, I did a stint as a legal secretary. During the brief time I was there, one of the lawyers managed to ask me everything from what my political and religious beliefs were to how I arranged my sock drawer! OneClever Elsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16418117983991542947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-73577972245988804692009-09-15T03:37:13.301-04:002009-09-15T03:37:13.301-04:00For me I got offended when someone asked me if why...For me I got offended when someone asked me if why don't I have any children or why am I still single. When they asked me something like this I will tell them that I am happy being single. No more further explanations like I owe them one.Filipina Girlhttp://www.cebuanas.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-42706629172240277072009-09-14T11:59:59.860-04:002009-09-14T11:59:59.860-04:00I'm single, child-free, and plan to stay that ...I'm single, child-free, and plan to stay that way.<br /><br />I'd say,again, the best answer to rude questions is to state that it's really too personal. Long explanations sound too much like apologies, and one-liners can make it sound like you're avoiding the question.<br /><br />I'd second Shiri's comment, that it's truly selfish to impose your own lifestyle on Alannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-73958976379844954062009-09-13T18:37:49.811-04:002009-09-13T18:37:49.811-04:00I'm young (22) but I've always known since...I'm young (22) but I've always known since I was a child that I don't want children. Parenthood was just never something that interested me, and never something I pictured myself doing. I get called selfish a lot for it--but I think it's selfish and ridiculous to think that what works for one person should work for everyone.<br /><br />Coming out of my vagina is not a requisite Shirinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-56276555354859845042009-09-12T20:10:27.770-04:002009-09-12T20:10:27.770-04:00Gosh...I get this EVERY TWO DAYS! Of course, "...Gosh...I get this EVERY TWO DAYS! Of course, "why not???" that is such a stupid response! Great points here...I think it is better to figure out why I am STILL defensive...because sometimes I am not, and sometimes I am. It is my reaction that matters.Special Khttp://thespecialktreatment.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-19414034977212972732009-09-11T08:00:02.686-04:002009-09-11T08:00:02.686-04:00I love the mom jeans one!
Someone on Onely (is i...I love the mom jeans one! <br /><br />Someone on Onely (is it bad that I'm too lazy to go back and check who?) answered the kids question with, "I tried, but the state kept taking them away." <br /><br />ChristinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-28830789814387136182009-09-11T01:52:17.529-04:002009-09-11T01:52:17.529-04:00I've never actually had someone ask why I don&...I've never actually had someone ask why I don't have kids (not sure if that's because the answer is obvious to anyone who knows me or if I'm just fortunate to have not run into this particular rudeness). But I imagine that I *were* ever asked the question, my response would likely simply be, "EXCUSE me?!?" accompanied by an incredulous "you did NOT just ask me that&Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06342077835649746639noreply@blogger.com