tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post2754555753668500910..comments2024-02-20T03:51:07.321-05:00Comments on Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles: Single by Choice or by Circumstance?Clever Elsiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16418117983991542947noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-8400976483238969652009-06-18T15:04:31.941-04:002009-06-18T15:04:31.941-04:00SW: Hi! Thanks for commenting! Yes, I think ther...<b>SW</b>: Hi! Thanks for commenting! Yes, I think there are a lot of people out there (largely underrepresented) who appreciate both states equally but for different reasons. Thanks for pointing that out.Clever Elsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16418117983991542947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-76566099552887649502009-06-15T06:35:38.589-04:002009-06-15T06:35:38.589-04:00what i like about this post is that it shows that ...what i like about this post is that it shows that rather than an either/or situation, singleness can be a both/and. you can be both happy being single and appreciative of connecting with someone else. <br />perhaps 'single by choice' is really 'comfy with being single', while 'single by circumstance' could mean there's a lagging doubt and/or want for things to be Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-88884932306006055272009-06-13T20:31:45.552-04:002009-06-13T20:31:45.552-04:00Part II of my responses:
Bryan: Hi, welcome to S...Part II of my responses:<br /><br /><br /><b>Bryan</b>: Hi, welcome to <i><b>Singletude</b></i>! I love seeing new "faces" here. Like you, I really couldn't have imagined that I would be single at my age. I have this vivid memory of a childhood friend and I swearing that we wouldn't get married before 25 so that we'd have a chance to see the world, but I never really Clever Elsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16418117983991542947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-6681942932489493792009-06-13T20:30:44.357-04:002009-06-13T20:30:44.357-04:00First of all, thanks to everyone for these particu...First of all, thanks to everyone for these particularly thoughtful comments this week! Most of you beat me to the punch since next week's question was going to be whether you saw yourself as single by choice or by circumstance. I love the array of answers here! I'm going to respond to all of you, but Blogger is being finicky, so I'm going to have to split my reply into two.<br /><Clever Elsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16418117983991542947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-22526254102290458122009-06-11T19:43:50.860-04:002009-06-11T19:43:50.860-04:00I think every single person is in that status by c...I think every single person is in that status by choice, to a certain extent. Because even the actively looking or desperate singles can find someone if they try; it might just not be who they want. So isn't that being single by choice? I suppose someone who just got out of a relationship can say she/he's single by circumstance, but even then, nothing keeps that person to go out and meet Moniquehttp://dazzlinglysingle.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-54663441616927322422009-06-11T16:32:18.014-04:002009-06-11T16:32:18.014-04:00I have noticed that there is a distinctive differe...I have noticed that there is a distinctive difference between single by choice and single by chance. But I think we have a lot more in common than we have differences.<br /><br />I am not sure which camp I fall into. Because I do feel that I choose to be single, in a way, by not pursuing relationships and by living my life so fully that there is not really room for a relationship at this time. The Singlutionaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11199194725578216599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-77874109557719412632009-06-10T18:08:13.024-04:002009-06-10T18:08:13.024-04:00I think I'm single by chance because of my cho...I think I'm single by chance because of my choice. Make sense? I could have been in relationships but I chose not to be with those guys because "it" wasn't there. I just didn't feel the bond to be in a relationship and I'm sorry that's needed. So I know many friends in the circumstance category who would view me as being single by choice but I figure this, if I'dCC Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13430554149106735210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-23673676000580714002009-06-09T23:51:15.985-04:002009-06-09T23:51:15.985-04:00Hi,
This topic is the reason I went looking for ...Hi, <br /><br />This topic is the reason I went looking for blog about being Single. In the last few years I started having shorter and shorter relationships and longer spans between them. Its something that I reflect on more as I realize I'm about to be 31. Its been two years since my last relationship. (Wow, has it really been that long?) Its a state I never would've expected a few Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094589497245141402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-48617054983889294822009-06-08T21:54:21.068-04:002009-06-08T21:54:21.068-04:00I am not sure if I've seen much of the divisio...I am not sure if I've seen much of the division you're talking about, Elsie. But maybe I need to pay more attention!<br /><br />I embraced being single when I realized that I can actually make that choice! I don't have to pretend that I am between relationships. So, I would venture to say that the (only?) difference between singles by choice and by circumstance is the awareness that Rachel ABhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341583708711388417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-56909377260040609842009-06-08T18:24:23.440-04:002009-06-08T18:24:23.440-04:00I think that sounds like a fairly natural progress...I think that sounds like a fairly natural progression, and I can relate to it.<br />Now I have to be careful, too, about not sounding like I'm forcing anything down on anyone, but I am trying to speak more openly about how I feel because it's exciting to me! Sometimes passion can be mistaken for militant.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051174636017409935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7513236913461668571.post-89760138113850726322009-06-07T23:26:10.621-04:002009-06-07T23:26:10.621-04:00I like to say that I am single by chance, but I *c...I like to say that I am single by chance, but I *choose* to accept and embrace singlehood. If I met a stellar, stellar guy, I would not be averse to becoming unsingle. But I'm not going out of my way to find him. <br /><br />Before starting Onely, I used to think that if I met this stellar guy, I would probably marry him. However, as we approach Onely's one year birthday, I've comeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com